Wednesday, March 6, 2013

I Am So Embarrassed - I Tried So Hard


I have tried very hard many times to do things that ended up blowing up in my face. I have a pencil lead in my right hand that is from trying to help a girl in school who was always picked on by others. I bent down to give the pencil to her that she dropped on the floor and when I gave it to her she yelled at me while slamming the pencil into the palm of my hand. She wasn’t trying to do me harm. She was striking back because she thought I was going to pick on her or do her harm like so many others had done. It hurt my feelings to be lumped into the group of those who were making fun of a disabled young girl when I was trying to do something good.

Do you realize that many times we face the same kind of hurt feelings and are floored by the reactions of people when we have tried to do something that was good and beneficial to those involved? There are times in life when we want to try something new or are interested in learning about something that our families and friends just don’t appreciate. What is worse is when we want to try something or get involved in a work or project with the church and face the same kind of ridicule or frustration. Maybe we wanted to teach a class on a certain subject or age group, or maybe we suggested a different method of greeting our visitors, or maybe we even were bold enough to suggest we change the order of worship or even the time that we meet and then were taken aside and shown “the way of God more accurately” by our brethren. In such cases, it would be so easy to run away and hide. It would be tempting to quit worshiping with that group and go somewhere else. It would be frustrating to feel like our opinion doesn’t matter.

When we are faced with rejection from our brethren when we are trying very hard to do what is right, we need to make sure we respond to the decision in the best possible way. We must realize that in matters of opinion, things don’t have to go my way. Additionally, we need to realize that there may be good reasons why the brethren don’t want to change. There may have been a similar mission tried in the past. There may have been an effort made that was rejected from others. There may be something in the story we do not know about and sharing those things with us might not be an option. Yes, it may be that the people aren’t ready to get to work and need some direction on the mission and purpose of the church. Yes, there may need to be an attitude adjustment made to certain individuals, but that is not our place. If we have made an offer or suggestion to the brethren and the eldership but it was rejected, we should not have a knee jerk reaction to take our ball and go home. We must humbly submit and keep striving toward helping others to give God first place in their hearts while helping the church to grow.

Can you imagine the embarrassment James and John felt in that Samaritan village where they wanted to command fire to come down and destroy the city? Jesus rebuked them for wanting to destroy men’s lives rather than saving them (Luke 9:51-56). When Jesus prophesied of His coming death, Peter said that he wasn’t going to let this happen. Jesus replied, “Get behind Me, Satan! You are an offense to Me, for you are not mindful of the things of God, but the things of men” (Matt. 16:21-23). These three men would have felt embarrassment and frustration, but they did not leave Christ. In fact, they are later described as being a part of the group that turned the world upside down (Acts 17:6). Don’t quit and don’t give up!

We can learn from the example of Aquila and Priscilla in how they worked with Apollos. Apollos was a man who loved God, was fervent in spirit, spoke and taught accurately, but didn’t know about the baptism of Christ. Fortunately, there was a loving couple who took him aside and explained to him the way of God more accurately and even sent a letter to other brethren so that Apollos would be well received and be put to work in the kingdom. When he arrived he was a great help to the church and he vigorously refuted the Jews publicly showing from Scriptures that Jesus is the Christ (Acts 18:24-28). Do you think that these three brethren hid from each other after this? I suggest to you that they loved each other and formed a closer bond because they were able to grow and further the kingdom. A problem was handled but it was handled in the right manner. 

If you have tried and been rejected, don’t feel like a failure. Keep on fighting for the Lord. If you are trying to help someone work more effectively for the Lord, don’t belittle them. Take them aside and teach and support them. Then let us all get to work together. If we do, there will not be embarrassment.

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